Monday, September 20, 2010

CD? ?DPO . . . An Open Letter to Friends and Acquaintances

Dear Everyone I Know:

Please stop getting knocked up until I have successfully been knocked up first. I want to be happy and excited for you, but I am a cold hearted bitch and cannot fight my jealous feelings when I see your announcements. The resulting inner conflict leaves me barfy and sad at my general bitter state. I could try to stay off of facebook, but then I would become bored at work and coloring only entertains me for so long. To be frank, everything is about me, me, me, so stop being so selfish already and focus more on me. Love, Mrs. Joe

I don't know where I am in this cycle. Literally and figuratively.

Naturally, I did just what I said I wasn't going to do on Friday and I took a test when I got home from work. Of course, it was negative and of course, I threw a tantrum. I tried my best to get it together for the football game, and for the most part I succeeded. Given the results, I'm going to guess that I did not ovulate on CD15 and instead did a few days later and this is actually 9 or 10 DPO, which could still be too early for a BFP. I'm still holding out for it.

I hate feeling like a total bitch every time I see an announcement on fb or at work or some other place. The latest announcement is from a good friend from high school, and she wasn't flashy or obnoxious about it either. In fact, I had to stalk her page a little to confirm it. I wanted to be happy for her. For a moment, I was. Then, envy started creeping in and no matter how I tried to squash it, the feeling sorta took over. How is it possible that I can recognize the jealousy taking over, but I can't stop it??? Most of that open letter is a joke, but the internal war I fight with myself really does make me sick. This is not the person I want to be.

3 comments:

Emily said...

I could have written the part about others announcing their pregnancies. I try to be happy for them, I really do! But instead I just want to push them down a flight of stairs for getting something I don't have.

The strange thing is that I have never been a jealous person until now. But then again, IF can make us do some crazy things!

Katie said...

Keeping my fingers crossed for a positive test soon!!!

Livin' on love! said...

I hear you on the people announcing pregnancies, and like Emily said, I've never been a jealous person either, until the TTC isues started. I hear ya, I want to be happy for people who are in the same boat, but it's so difficult, when you want to be in their shoes. I wish you the best and I'm thinking of you!!